Toby Faye Mailman, LCSW

Toby Faye Mailman is a New York State licensed Clinical Social Worker (LCSW) with 25 years of experience working with individual adults. She helps people who are struggling with stress, anxiety, trauma and abuse, low self-esteem, depression, relationship concerns, grief, parenting strain, anger, career questions, and coping with life changes.

She frames her role as a coach who helps people identify strengths they already have. She also helps clients build new skills to answer questions and resolve dilemmas. Sessions are scheduled regularly, often weekly or bi-weekly, because she finds consistent meetings are most useful for progress.

Mailman uses several approaches and chooses methods based on what seems most helpful for each person. Her practice has included Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT), Attachment-Based and Emotionally-Focused approaches, Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT), and client-centered methods. She has worked with clients from a range of ethnicities, cultures, and sexual orientations and takes cultural norms into account in planning care.

She trained at New York University and has focused on individual adult psychotherapy since 2001. Practical matters like scheduling are part of the process; she asks clients to give advance notice for rescheduling and to coordinate changes so regular appointment times can be preserved when possible.

People come to her for many concerns beyond mood and anxiety, including caregiver stress, chronic illness and pain, addiction, domestic violence, first responder issues, and complicated grief. She also addresses communication and commitment problems, guilt and shame, hoarding, and adjustment after disasters or major life events.

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